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| Source:- http://www.keepcalm-o-matic.co.uk/p/be-a-real-man-and-respect-women/ |
Since 2 days, there have been a lot of chaos and noise about the interview of one of the most heinous criminal we can ever witness. The reactions from different sect of people on interview of the NIRBHAYA/DAMINI case accused, Mukesh Singh, by BBC and #NirbhayaInsulted has trended across the social media, surpassing even the jumps of stock exchanges. But believe me, it’s not only #NirbhayaInsulted, it’s more than that, it is #WeAreAgainInsulted.
I am not only penning down my anguish and frustration on that culprit, but also to the people who believe and support that the interview should not have been conducted , should be banned and not broadcast. I differ and disagree with them and this is my whole sole opinions, although few might NOT agree.
I ask why the hell it should not be aired. That interview and the mindset of that criminal and people of that sort raises a lot of questions we need to address; questions that we Indians don’t want to hear ,accept , answer and rather always avoid. It raises questions for and to We Indian MARD and society, to the same extent, as it raises question to our judicial system that why that culprit is still alive. It slaps a question to “us” again, that where we are and where we are leading to with people having the mind-set in sync with the accused, still around us.
We can easily come across men, even women, in our day today life, if not having exactly that mentality for Women, but in a close proximity. It raises a question that, why don’t we face and accept the reality, that there are people, who think women are just commodities, and we have done nothing to curb their mentality. And if these termites prevail, persist and flourish in our society, it’s not only the government or authorities to be blamed, but also WE. We Indian men also are equally responsible and liable for it.
Why we pay deaf ears and blind eyes to these kinds of stuffs even to the smallest scale. Why we always try to avoid our moral and social responsibility and then find excuse for it. Why don’t we come out of our shells and argue with people with that insane ideology. What is the use of being an educated IT engineer , when we don’t have the guts to argue with an arrogant cab driver or a guard , who thinks in the same manner and says that, “Saab , ladkiya ab taange dikha k ghumengi raato mein to ye sab to hoga hi na”. Why we avoid discussions with them at that moment, thinking, “kaun muh lage” and later on abuse them in front of our colleagues. Where goes that sense of objection, which comes when grading is low in appraisals? Why don’t we gather our conscious, courage and anger and say “Abe, taange dikhayengi to kya rape kar doge. Who had given you this right? And what If I think the same way for your girls, seeing their bare stomach and waist in a sari”? Occurrence of these sort crimes frequently is unacceptable and so is our Social& Moral behaviour towards it.
And why the hell so much uproar about claiming that the interview is giving a justification platform to that accused, and makes him a celebrity. Come-on, crap it up. First see the interview and then decide. The interview statements released till now have revealed a very real picture of a particular sect of Indian men and society, which we all are very much aware of , and it’s up to us to decide whether the accused can have anything to justify himself and such a heinous act. I am sure no-one sensitive ever would agree with his statement and I believe that everyone marking their views on different platforms is a sensitive person. So question of “justification” seems nowhere to me and we should not be bothered about that, because we have already hailed him as criminal deserving capital punishment. Instead we should be more concerned about the statement he made that, “next time if any rapist will rape, he will make sure to kill the girl” .We should revert to him and to similar people with some strong message that “No you sick-minds, this won’t happen now”. Go watch the interview, feel the pain, the anguish, the frustration and then decide whether the interview has made him like any celebrity and provided him a justification platform. I am sure the answer will be a big NO.
To me the biggest ironical comment is that the interview will bring global shame to our country. Hadn't our political, social and cultural leaders already done a lot towards it, making stupid remarks over women and preaching them about Do’s and Don’ts. They are so called responsible faces of our nation and their statements have been biggest shameful mockeries. That rapist does not represent India to the level which they do, so forget about shame. We are already very much into that shit of shame, by those acts.
In-sensitiveness in freedom of speech is what few are talking. I mean, are you nuts to expect sensitive attitude from that person in his speech. Had he been sensitive, he would not have done that crime. Sensitive behavior are also expected from intuitive and educated people , but when lawyers , politicians , normal persons of this nation are least sensitive towards it, expecting sensitiveness in freedom of speech from that criminal seems asking a kindergarten kid to solve a differential equation. In fact, he might not be aware that he has a right which is called Freedom of Speech.
Also, I am very much skeptical to the way our media is presenting, portraying and debating on this. It feels that they are least concerned about the interview; instead they are remorseful and frustrated that how they missed the golden chance. How the idea of interviewing a rape accused couldn't be executed from their end. How can a British media channel show a segment of Indian mind-set? It seems that, BBC had snatched a golden egg-laying hen, which could have easily brought them a lot of TRP and money.
And here comes the best. The “Zalim Lotion” word “Ban”. “Ban it and escape”. The interview broadcast has been banned by our government who as always don’t want to nail deep down to the root cause and do something towards fixation. Just Ban it and, avoid the chaos. “Banning something” to government/authorities, is what Google is to an IT engineer. “Ban karo aur patli gali se nikal lo”. But we have to ensure that, there should not be any escape to anyone who is just avoiding its responsibility.
There is no worth in rising to global power when you can’t respect women power. There is no need for enchanting hymns, praises and respect for Goddesses of Abode, when you don’t have the same feelings and do the same for Goddesses of Earth, our women.
The need of the hour is to watch the interview, face it, discuss it, feel the agony, be in anger, accept the reality, challenge “IT” and rectify “IT”. And “IT” is nothing but the mind-sets of these types of Indian Men. It is shameful but a bitter fact that we have to accept and confront the main issue:-Indian Men Mind, that We Indian Men do not respect Women. Yes, we all do not respect women. Don’t talk about any other country and argue that rapes happen everywhere. If our home is dirty we should first clean it up rather than pointing to the dirt of our neighbors.
Accept this ,that we (including me) all are dirty men with dirty minds. And it is this “dirty mind” that has to be changed. It’s not only just that “I” respect my women , who are my relatives and associated with me in any possible manner, but also that we should have the same feeling for all women, irrespective of caste, religion, creed , social background, profession, anything. Also, it is our responsibility to engrave the same mentality in minds of every man around us. The mentality that women doing a job in fashion industry/film industry /call centers are sluts’ type of women needs to be challenged and then obliterated. When we men do not have any guts to take anything at the stake of our respect, then how the Fu*k we think that we have right to declare a women character and disrespect her on the basis of her profession, clothes, etc.
It’s high time again to set some act and things right. We must do whatever we can to even shackle this mind-set, try at least once, to pelt a stone on this filthy minds wall which is very much prevalent in our society, even at our homes.
It’s said that “Rome was not built in a day”. The same goes for this mental termite. It has been nourished all throughout years and passed to us by our fore fathers. We have to build another “Rome” in fact INDIA. INDIA of minds respecting women and I know that would also not happen in a day, but believe that it will happen. We have recently created history in elections and we can show our power again to “CRUSH and CURB” people like Mukesh.
Move out from the tag of Social media citizen and be an actual responsible citizen. Instead of shouting, do something, do whatever you can, to hurt even most minute section of this Indian men mindset. Start from yourself first, Change yourself. Mahatma Gandhi had said "Be the change you want to see".Determine yourself to respect all women, whether known or unknown, office colleague OR tea vendor, house maid OR even a prostitute. Have respect for all Women. Indulge in arguments, with everyone, challenge them who feel that women are “meant for this”, whether they are elder to you, your kith and kin; let them shout and chide that “zuban mat ladao”. But let them know that this is wrong. "Every woman deserves respect, as we men demand."
Take a pledge, a vow, to enlighten the dark mind, so called low class people, less educated ones, that they should have respect for all women. Educate all to respect every woman.
I take a pledge “to CHANGE MYSELF and RESPECT ALL WOMEN in ALL RESPECTS and would be HONEST with myself on this pledge”. I again urge everyone to do whatever they can do, but PLEASE DO.
After all, till what time we would have debates, sessions and resentments on these incidents.
This has to END, and to END anything, we need to START; START now.
