Induja Pillai an emerging voice of new Indian society. I very much appreciate her effort for putting this so honestly in public domain, that what she thinks and what all her expectations from life and a life partner? I won't hesitate to acknowledge this fact that I got motivated by her to write this blog and put my view on the same.
As we all know, arrange marriages are the most complicated affairs of Indian society, where even your time and place of birth also plays a vital role not to forget caste and religion are equally important too. Nowadays girls are putting their expectations or aspiration from their life partner more honestly. Somewhere, I have started feeling the conventional taboo's attached with females would eventually breakdown.
Being a boy, one of my friend is also facing the same complicated situation of arrange marriage but by having a conversation with him, I am feeling that conventional taboo's for boys are not even showing a slightest crack. He was rejected by a girl for marriage since his annual income was lesser than her although they were in relationship for years. Every other person is evaluating him on her own self made economic parameters. few I have listed below:
This recent change in attitude of the society raises a question why only boys have to provide the economical stability. Why can't they can be a house man even if they are willing to do so, like me.
I am low earning a very common salaried professional, not very smart, just have an average looks or may be below average. I am not physically too fit. If I ever get a girl who's earn fairly well and want to marry me. I would willingly quit my job to take up all household responsibility and become a devoted house man. But unfortunately by seeing my friends case it is next to impossible. I will also have to fulfill above mentioned parameters and may be more. And thank God , that there is no-one from relatives or my family are aware of my blog or else I would have been tagged as irresponsible just because I am ready become a house man and no father will ever give his daughter to me and no girl will even look at me.
Is it possible, that a time may come when conventions for a boy will also be broken? and they will actually be free from overburden liabilities and their partners will start carrying equal share willingly?
As we all know, arrange marriages are the most complicated affairs of Indian society, where even your time and place of birth also plays a vital role not to forget caste and religion are equally important too. Nowadays girls are putting their expectations or aspiration from their life partner more honestly. Somewhere, I have started feeling the conventional taboo's attached with females would eventually breakdown.
Being a boy, one of my friend is also facing the same complicated situation of arrange marriage but by having a conversation with him, I am feeling that conventional taboo's for boys are not even showing a slightest crack. He was rejected by a girl for marriage since his annual income was lesser than her although they were in relationship for years. Every other person is evaluating him on her own self made economic parameters. few I have listed below:
- Annual CTC
- Own a flat
- Own a car
- Have been to abroad (as he is from IT)
This recent change in attitude of the society raises a question why only boys have to provide the economical stability. Why can't they can be a house man even if they are willing to do so, like me.
I am low earning a very common salaried professional, not very smart, just have an average looks or may be below average. I am not physically too fit. If I ever get a girl who's earn fairly well and want to marry me. I would willingly quit my job to take up all household responsibility and become a devoted house man. But unfortunately by seeing my friends case it is next to impossible. I will also have to fulfill above mentioned parameters and may be more. And thank God , that there is no-one from relatives or my family are aware of my blog or else I would have been tagged as irresponsible just because I am ready become a house man and no father will ever give his daughter to me and no girl will even look at me.
Is it possible, that a time may come when conventions for a boy will also be broken? and they will actually be free from overburden liabilities and their partners will start carrying equal share willingly?
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